tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-83693622374755916152024-03-19T23:22:05.786+11:00The Mostly Unfabulous Life of a Mormon BoyDgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-3376539074827245382017-05-28T20:52:00.002+10:002017-05-28T20:52:48.660+10:00Hello! So I've just watched the Book of Mormon musical for the 4th time today - it still has me laughing in stitches throughout the show. I wonder if my friends actually get it as much as I do.<br />
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As I sat through the musical and the 95% accurate portrayal of Mormonism, I reflect in amazement that there was once a time I actually believed in the teachings of the Church. What now sound like a silly bunch of made up stories was enough to make me willing to dedicate everything I had to the Church (note - i consciously decided not to use 'God')<br />
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My friend asked me after the show 'did you really have to be in the apartment by 9pm?'<br />
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Yep - along with no TV, radio, newspapers, books, music - or anything that was not focused on the Church.... yet this only sounds a little brainwash-y to me now.<br />
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Taking the 'I believe' song for a minute...<br />
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- God lives on a planet called Kolob???<br />
- The Garden of Eden in Jackson County Missouri??????<br />
- Ancient Jews built boats and sailed to America??????<br />
- Thomas Monson speaks directly to God??? - I actually truly believed this one!<br />
- Me getting my own planet???<br />
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Okay so now that I've stopped singing the song.... yes, Mormonism is full of stories and really 'out there' ideas and beliefs yet millions of people out there believe in it... with every fibre of their being...<br />
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How can some people believe so freely some not? How can people believe so certainly with no room for alternatives yet have never experienced the contrary? Just like the point of the song, I felt like I was taught to 'just believe'. I'm also a strong believer in the power of verbalisation and the more we verbalise things, the more we begin to process them in our mind and some things just become real. Ofcourse this isn't always the case but it certainly helps some people process things and cope.<br />
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Well, my view now is - who cares what you believe in! As long as you're not hurting anyone and it brings you joy - have at it! <br />
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Despite my views now, I do not regret going on a mission. My mission taught me so much about myself, other people and the world. I learned so much about getting along with people, cleaning habits and approaching random strangers on the street to start a conversation. Plus, I totally would not have enjoyed the musical as much as I do now!<br />
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If you haven't seen it already - do yourself a favour a go see it!<br />
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<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-49089423067813760782017-01-14T22:48:00.000+11:002017-01-14T23:06:12.854+11:002017 - Where Are You Now?Hey all! It's been a while since my last post so here's a bit of an update from my last post...<br />
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2016 in review:<br />
I think 2015 was such an amazing year it would be hard to top and surely, 2016 was certainly not as exciting. Life was pretty ordinary. It was filled with mundane life activities which weren't all bad but certainly ordinary.<br />
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The year was filled with memories with my partner - moving in, going on holidays together, arguing over housework, stressing about life, sharing fond memories, building furniture together, cooking dinners, catching up with friends and family and work.<br />
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I probably would've had a more positive review of 2016 recent events haven't been a little negative. My partner and I which I left off with last time have been going through some challenges and the future is all a bit too uncertain right now.<br />
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Here's the <u>2016</u> wrap up!</h2>
<b><u>Highlights:</u></b><br />
- Partner moved in<br />
- Met some amazing people along the way and friends I intend to keep for life<br />
- Strengthened some friendships<br />
- Met my partner's parents and our parents meeting (who would've thought?!?!?)<br />
- Travelled South East Asia with my partner<br />
- Started another new job<br />
- Saw Carrie Underwood live in concert!!<br />
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So that's 2016....<br />
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Interesting enough Church almost always defaults back into my mind when other aspects of my life aren't as perfect maybe because it was so conditioned into me as a child that in hard time to turn to God. Don't get me wrong, I certainly have not felt an urge to return to activity in the Church or have a change of heart but somehow, the Church always seems to resurface in one way or another. In the last week I saw 2 set of missionaries on 2 different occasions. When I see missionaries I always feel compelled to give them money to buy food because we were always poor on our mission and I will never forget an inactive member giving us money to buy food on a train once. Then again, missionary service is very different these days then it was when I was on my mission - since when was Facebook appropriate on a mission?!<br />
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I have also been asked a question recently by a colleague about whether or not I am spiritual. I actually feel quite confident in explaining my beliefs now - I do believe in a higher power out there but I don't believe they align with organised religion. Life is too beautiful to be a coincidence. I guess I have found peace in what I believe in even though the citing of Mormons still catches my attention and probably always will. I am certainly a advocate for freedom and choices as long as the person is making a choice that is not coerced whether overtly or covertly. I too often see people feeling pressured to make certain decision in the Church due to social pressures, expectations or unspoken rules. What people choose is their choice but they need to make an informed decision. I certainly don't feel like I could've made an inform decision at 18 to stay in the Church without ever experiencing what it was like to embrace my sexuality. Not to say you should be a slut (not that there's anything wrong with that, just not my cup of tea), but I think everyone should see both sides before they dedicate their life to something.<br />
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Well there's my rant for now :)<br />
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<u>Happy 2017!</u></h2>
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<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-36624071277895221472016-07-29T19:29:00.003+10:002016-07-29T19:29:49.424+10:00To go or not to go<span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;">So it's been a while since I've blogged... probably due to my very minimal contact with the Church these days. So what's brought me back to write this blog? Well here I go...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;">Life has been quite good the past few months since my last post - my partner and I are still happily coupled, my family has been more accepting as I could ever have imagined, I have made some of the most amazing friends - I have never been more content with my life. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;">Out of the blue, I get a text from my former Bishop inviting me to come to Church this Sunday as he has requested to teach a 5th Sunday lesson on homosexuality and would like my opinion on his lesson. If you haven't already read my previous posts, my Bishop has been nothing but supportive and understanding during the journey of my leaving the Church. He wants to use this opportunity to educate members around homosexuality and if anything help those feeling unwanted and those who maybe struggling with SSA to feel loved and that it is okay. I will never cease to be amazed at how progressive my Bishop is. His invitation for me to come to Church (without any pressure and completely up to me) has brought some anxiety... Sunday is 2 days away and I haven't even made up my mind yet. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;">I mean when I left the Church and put it all behind me roughly a year ago, I never thought I would feel this way about returning casually for a Sunday. I really feel that my views have changed and going to Church isn't something that I want to do. What would people think of me? How do I answer people's questions about what I have been up to? What do I say when the missionaries want to come visit me? </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;">On the other hand, when will I get another opportunity to give a lived experience to a progressive Bishop who obviously is a great ally to have. Or give a young person hope that life is not over and really does not have to be that bad being gay. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;">Should I be selfless and put my fears aside? Should I even let a part of Church back into my life when life has been going so well for me? Is it worth putting myself through anxiety to run the risk of being angry hearing members voice their views on homosexuality because lets face it - the doctrine is the doctrine, they will not be okay with someone being openly gay. </span><br />
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<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-49070715876692258002016-02-29T18:58:00.001+11:002016-02-29T18:58:52.969+11:00The Mostly Unfabulous Life of an 'Ex'-Mormon BoyAs you may have already picked up from the title of this post... I have officially resigned from the LDS Church.<br />
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My inactivity in the Church over the past year have been the best year of my life however I've never felt like keeping my membership in the Church would cause any harm so I never really seriously considered removing my membership. So here's a few events that contributed to this recent move.<br />
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<u><b>Policy Changes:</b></u><br />
I really felt I wanted to express my stance on the Church and its policy change on the LGBTI issues. Did I really want to still show my support in an organisation that would disfellowship and ultimately ex-communicate me for being in a loving relationship? If this was the outcome, I would rather do it on my terms.<br />
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<u><b>Parents:</b></u><br />
My Mum told me one day that she wanted me to remove my membership as she felt that I would be held more accountable being a member and not obeying the commandments than not being a member anymore. I could see where she was coming from.<br />
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<u><b>Closure:</b></u><br />
The final reason is really for myself. I feel like the Church has still been apart of my life in many different ways despite not attending - such as the missionaries calling wanting to visit earlier in the year. I feel like my boyfriend feels somewhat threatened by the Church and the role it has played in my life and although this has been less and less of an issue, it is still the unspoken vibe that I feel everytime Mormons or Utah is mentioned on a TV show we're watching (and surprisingly Mormons are talked about quite a bit in pop culture). I've started a new chapter in my life and I feel like I have yet to completely close an older chapter and this is where my resignation comes from.<br />
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So I made an appointment with my Bishop to ask if I could see him. He was excited to meet me, it has been quite a while since we've met and I'm sure he was holding onto the hope that I had explored and realised that I wanted to return to Church. Even if that was what he was thinking he did an amazing job hiding it because he was nothing but supportive. In fact he shared some very inspiring stories and beliefs he has with me that gave me some hope that maybe one day LGBTI people would be more welcome in an LDS Church.<br />
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So that's that. A chapter closed and another chapter I'm excited for :) <br />
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I might expand a bit further in a future post some of Bishop's views.<br />
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<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-60196827602150828682015-12-30T23:42:00.002+11:002015-12-30T23:42:26.999+11:00What A Year !Before I start this post, I'm aware that I haven't followed up on my cliff hanger post just over 2 months ago and I will address it for those who are dying to find out, (I know you're out there... somewhere).<br />
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So seeing as tomorrow is NYE and 2015 has seemingly flashed before my eyes, it only befitting to recap 2015 and look at how many of my New Year resolutions were met.<br />
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Let me just say... WHAT A YEAR!<br />
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So here they are, my goals from my resolutions post for this year: <br />
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<u><b>GOALS:</b></u><br />
<i>-<span style="color: #cc0000;"> <span style="color: black;">visit my parents at least 4 times</span></span><span style="color: red;"> (X - I only managed 2 visit this year)</span></i><br />
<i>- spend time together as an entire family twice<span style="color: red;"> (X - just the once)</span></i><br />
<i> </i><i>- fall in love <span style="color: red;">(TICK - woohoo!!)</span></i><br />
<i> </i><i>- don't say no to an invite for no good reason <span style="color: red;">(TICK - I reckon this one was met)</span></i><br />
<i>- make 2 new good friends (friends that actually hang out together regularly) <span style="color: red;">(TICK - I've actually made lots of friends this year!)</span></i><br />
<i> </i><i>- work for protective services OR get a promotion</i> in my current field <span style="color: red;">(TICK - took the leap here too)</span><br />
<i>- travel to the USA <span style="color: red;">(TICK - best.trip.ever)</span></i><br />
<i> </i><i>- Fit into clothes the next size up <span style="color: red;">(X - not quite yet...)</span></i><br />
<i>- Pick up a recreational sport <span style="color: red;">(X - not even close)</span></i><br />
<i>- <strike>Get ripped</strike> Be healthy <span style="color: red;">(HALF-TICK - going to the USA definitely set me back)</span></i><br />
<i> </i>- find God and develop a relationship with Him if He is there<span style="color: red;"> (HALF-TICK - well this is an interesting one, I'll elaborate below)</span><br />
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All in all, 2015 has been one killer year.<br />
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<u><span style="color: blue;"><b>Things I achieved in 2015 in no particular order:</b></span></u></h2>
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I guess the last symbolises the inner peace I feel with where I am spiritually. I feel free, no longer caged by an institution. I feel closer to nature and perhaps the being that overlooks us from above.<br />
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I don't feel a need to make any resolutions for 2016. I honestly feel that I have everything I could ever ask for and then some. I just hope the saying 'what goes up must come down' is not true otherwise 2016 will have a lot to come down from. Perhaps that's why I don't blog as much, I don't feel I needed the outlet I did in the past to vent or there may not even be anything to vent about. Afterall, why would I need to vent when I have an amazing partner by my side (#2).<br />
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Happy 2016!! <br />
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<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-46638391910528774122015-10-12T21:51:00.002+11:002015-10-12T21:53:21.392+11:00Will You Accept This Rose?It's been a while since I've posted mainly due to the crazy schedule I've had recently.<br />
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Lots have happened in the last few months - mainly good (or great!) But also with it's fair share of dilemmas.<br />
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Let me try and recap some of the things I've wanted to post about but haven't had the time to.<br />
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Before I start, I should give bit of context to the entertainment climate of Australia... heard of the show The Bachelor? Well we're onto our 3rd season here and it's a massive hit! Everyone watches it and it's everywhere... it has correlations with the post!<br />
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Once upon a time...<br />
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About 2 months ago I was bored and probably a bit lonely so I used a lot of dating apps and as per usual didn't find anything substantial. I still refused to hook up with guys however I found my boundaries were getting pushed back further and further. Before I knew it I had a guy over for a movie and some cuddling. It felt nice but I knew it didn't mean anything to him because he clearly was looking for something casual. We had a good night watching a movie and cuddling and even made out. I constantly had to move his hands northward though. He made an excuse to stay over under the premise that we wouldn't have sex as it was too late for him to drive home and he was too tired. To be honest, I quite enjoyed his company. What I found really odd was he started texting me daily after we met up that once. Let's call him Candidate 1.<br />
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Simultaneously I had posted an ad for an old fashioned date which some random guy responded to. We had planned to go grab a coffee (or hot beverage) but he bailed on me last minute so I thought he was a bit of a flake. Nevertheless he rescheduled for another day or I thought I'd give him one more chance. We caught up for coffee (in relation to time we caught up for coffee a couple of days after I met Candidate 1), and it was really nice. This guy had great values, we connected on several levels and wanted much of the same things. I had my reservations though because I thought he was a bit young and wasn't really sure if he was interested. The date just consisted of us having an ice cream and chatting... for about 4 hours. I had to go or I think we would've talked for longer. He shall be Candidate 2.<br />
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Also simultaneously a guy had sent me a message on one of my dating apps and we had been sending messages back and forth for a few days. We had organised a date the following day from when I met Candidate 2. We caught up the following day and just walked around the beach and just chatted. It was for a good 2 hours too and it was quite nice. He was quite a quirky guy who had a great sense of humour and clearly very mature in his thinking. He had a lot of life experiences which was apparent in the way he talked about the way he handled situations and viewed life. He shall be Candidate 3.<br />
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So Candidate 1 had been texting me throughout this time and I had told him I went on a very promising date to which he then asked if he could take me on a 'proper date' soon before the other guys snapped me up. I was pretty shocked to be honest as I didn't think he wanted anything serious. I said yes and we met up later that night for a tea which was also very lovely.<br />
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Then there I was... 3 wonderful guys all at once... I only asked for one guy. All 3 of them were great in their own way and they were all so different. I felt like I had a different connection with each of them.<br />
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<b><i>Candidate 1:</i></b> Very intelligent, we shared a lot of commonality in life experience and our passion for social justice and we had amazing chemistry. On the down side he was a self confessed manwhore who apparently was sick of sleeping around and wanted something stable. He was 27.<br />
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<i><b>Candidate 2:</b></i> Very down to earth and we shared a lot of common values and aspirations in life. He also had a super awesome North American accent. On the down side, I wasn't sure if he really knew what he wanted in life. He is afterall only 22.<br />
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<i><b>Candidate 3:</b></i> Very creative and artsy type of guy with a wealth of life experience, made me feel very comfortable when I was talking with him. We were from very different worlds though and I wasn't sure if our world's were compatible. He was 30<br />
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There you have it. I can say that the decision was a difficult one. The most amazing part of this story was that I actually spoke to my Mum about these guys and she gave me very good advice on who I should pick. I could never have imagined talking to my Mum about boys! She gave me some very good advice too which confirmed who I should pick. I knew deep inside who I wanted to pick but I was afraid I would make the wrong decision. I felt like I was a contestant on The Bachelor.. all these amazing guys with whom I had a connection with but I could only choose one!<br />
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I can reveal that I am happily in a relationship with one of the 3 candidates. As per how these shows (The Bachelor) usually go, the result will be announced next episode (post). Hahaha!<br />
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Thanks for reading :)<br />
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<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-18041923780156374942015-07-05T21:25:00.000+10:002015-07-05T21:25:07.094+10:00My 3 centsI started writing a post about a month ago with my two cents regarding the social media outburst around Ireland legalising same sex marriage and the whole Caitlyn Jenner saga but stopped half way through just due to lack of brain power. I've always intended to finish that post and the recent news in the US sparked another fire in me to continue to write the post yet it doesn't seem right anymore so I've started from scratch. Let's hope I finish this one...<br />
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So to say the least I was quite angered by the overwhelming response on social media expressing their opposition to same sex marriage. Whilst I generally steer clear of political conversations on Facebook I could no longer hold my peace and posted my support for the legalisation of same sex marriage. The first Facebook friend to delete me was ironically a guy I had converted on my mission.<br />
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After posting the status, reading an abundance of articles and several intense phone conversations with friends about the issue I have somewhat come to peace with the issue.<br />
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There's a lot of talk of love and acceptance but too often the words are easily said yet so difficult to show. I understand the need to respect other people's decisions but I will continue to speak up and be an advocate for what I believe in.<br />
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I saw an article that didn't really sit well with me (amongst articles with allegations that same sex marriages will pave the way for polygamy & pedophilia), and I wanted to get fellow MoHo's opinions as I know that this forum has both Mormons who still choose to follow the Gospel and those that choose not to. I had quite a few friends share this article and while it presents a very unique point I could not see myself relating to it as a gay Mormon and this could be due to the fact that I have deviated from the Gospel.<br />
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Have a read <a href="http://www.millennialmormons.com/your-choice-supporting-gay-marriage-or-supporting-gay-members/" target="_blank">here</a><br />
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The question I'm wondering is do SSA Mormons really feel disheartened when their friends show their support for gay marriage?<br />
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I did get a crack up out of a status I saw on Facebook which I didn't know was supportive of gay marriage or a typo: "I believe marriage to be between a man and women". (Unfortunately the person edited the status and it was a typo).<br />
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<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-68692500288743079692015-05-04T23:53:00.001+10:002015-05-04T23:53:30.839+10:00The Road to InactivityIt's been a long time coming but I'm finally ready to say that I am full fledged inactive.<br />
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I realised I haven't posted in a while and that maybe in part due to my busy schedule lately but also due to the fact that the Gospel actually doesn't cross my mind as much as it used to.<br />
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I went to Church last week for the first time in... about 2 months because my Home Teachers texted me and asked if they could share a message with me after Church on Sunday. I actually stayed for the whole 3 hours... I felt nothing. While my HT started sharing their message, they began asking me questions about how to have courage in defending my standards and beliefs and I thought it would be very hypocritical of me to lie about it so I told my HT that I didn't believe in the Gospel anymore. They really didn't know how to respond, I don't think they saw it coming but it felt good to be honest. There is so much power if verbalising thoughts that your mind has pondered for so long.<br />
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I think about my path to inactivity a lot and look at where I am now... how the hell did I get to where I am now?? Not in a bad way... I just can't comprehend how I managed to successfully breakaway from the Church while still feeling satisfied in my life and not harbouring any harsh feelings towards the Church.<br />
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I've written this post mostly due to reading some other posts by fellow MoHos and reading about the all too familiar struggles that they're going through. I remember being in the exact same position and remember feeling how I could ever be at peace with a decision and be happy. I thought I had found it when I decided to live the Gospel with all my heart and stay faithful the rest of my life... I think I gave it a good shot. Although I can't and won't try to convince others of what to do, I can only share what my experience has been hoping it could give some insight into what 'could' be on the other side.<br />
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I was such a good kid growing up. Always wanted to serve a mission, always did the right thing. Served as Deacon and Teacher's Quorum President and also the Assistant in the Priest Quorum. I gained my first 'testimony' at 14 - I use quotation marks because my interpretation of a testimony and the experiences I had may not be defined in the same way the Church defines testimony. It was still a special experience for me but I won't go into details here.<br />
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I dated girls growing up and I really thought I would live a happy fulfilling life in the Gospel and get married. Minus a few hiccups along the way during my rebellious teenage years, I was quite grounded in the Gospel. I promised the Lord that if I were to stay in the Gospel, it wouldn't be a half-assed attempt and that I would do it with all my heart and do everything He would want me to do. I served the most fulfilling 2 year mission I could've ever asked. I didn't have to think about girls, relationships or marriage. It was all about serving the Lord and that was probably why I loved it so much.<br />
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After my mission I still tried really hard to live the Gospel. I was called to be the Ward Mission Leader when I got home, I was also teaching Elder's Quorum and became an EFY counsellor soon after I returned home. I dated but could never commit to any girl because I just didn't feel anything. I just kept serving in the Church. I remember I would go out teaching with the missionaries at least 3 times a week and amongst studying and working, I wouldn't have time to 'have a girlfriend'.<br />
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I continued like this for a few years. I was feeling somewhat fulfilled because I had great friends. I knew something was missing though. I couldn't put my finger on it but something was missing...<br />
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After graduating from university, I moved interstate which was probably a pivotal moment in my life because I didn't have my family and friends around and expectations to live up to. I wanted to explore a new life, a new me. Funnily enough... I started going to Church when I moved interstate and started making friends in Church because I had no idea where else to make friends or what else to do. I was like a fish out of water, I had no idea how people made friends outside of Church.<br />
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Right around this time I also met my first boyfriend. We had a 'discreet' relationship as I was still in the closet and while it probably wasn't the best looking back it helped me realise that maybe this could work. I wasn't totally convinced though and I was too scared to let go of the Church.. something so familiar and safe to me. But this was the first time I had a taste of what the other side could be like... I liked it... but I couldn't see myself at this point leaving the Church and living a 'gay lifestyle'. Nevertheless, my Church activity began to waiver, I still went but I began missing weeks here and there.<br />
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<i><b>Coming Out:</b></i></div>
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Coming out to my friends and family (again) was a huge step for me in discovering myself and what I wanted. It wasn't an easy process and certainly it wasn't easy for my family either. It has been quite an adjustment for them as well (and I think an ongoing adjustment). If anything, I felt like I can now be honest with myself, I can go and discover what it is a really want and whether it was worth it. I started meeting with Bishop who was nothing but supportive. We tried many different things such as reading my scriptures and praying, nothing seemed to give me the peace I was looking for.<br />
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At this time, the Gospel probably moved more to the back burner for me. I wanted a boyfriend. I wanted to be loved. I want to love someone. This was when I met my second boyfriend who in my opinion played quite a bit role in my life even though we were only together for a short 3 months (it felt like a lot longer). He pushed me out of my comfort zone, we kissed in public, we held hands in public and we lived a 'normal' life. It showed me that a partnership wasn't just the promiscuity or the secret relationships, I could live happily with my partner and live a normal life. The relationship as mentioned before was short lived but what surprisingly remained with me was the will power to not go crawling back to Church. I needed to discover who I was and what I believed.<br />
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My meetings with Bishop became less frequent but because I didn't want to talk to him because I really enjoy our meetings, just that I didn't feel the need to anymore. I started questioning why I believed the way I did. I began to ask questions, questions that I couldn't find the answer to in the Gospel. I started to have doubts, (and if anyone says to be again 'doubt your doubts before you doubt your faith' I'm going to punch them). We should be encouraged to question BOTH our doubts and our faith - neglecting to question one or the other just means it's blind and we're only scared of what the answer might bring which in my case I was scared for so long... scared to see what my life would be like without the warm, fuzzy comforting blanket of the Gospel I'd believed all my life.<br />
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It all began with a seed of question and it begins to grow just as the same principle the Church uses about faith. I slowly began to question the reason WHY I believed what I did growing up. i wanted answers; I couldn't find any. I tried testing this faith principle oppositely - what if the Gospel wasn't true? What if God doesn't condemn me being with another man? To be completely honest, I feel more at peace with the thought that God would love me regardless. The Gospel taught me who God was... but I really had to find what that means for me.<br />
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Step my step, little by little, I began re-framing my life. I don't have all the answers and I don't know everything but I am at peace. I began going to Church less... (2 day weekend is actually amazing!!) I actually don't even have a second thought when I buy something on Sunday.<br />
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I recounted an experience with my HT on Sunday which I'd pondered about a lot. It was an experience from my mission when I visited a less active family. Lovely family, long history in the Church infact their ancestors were pioneers. A few years prior to me getting to the area they had dabbled in 'anti-mormon' material and had gone less active. I remember distinctly sitting with this family asking them what they believe now. They answered they didn't know. I thought to myself, 'man, how stupid is that? Why would you give up something you know for the unknown?' I remember talking to my companion afterwards about how stupid we thought that was and swore we would never leave the Church. I retold this story to my HT because I was wrong those years ago. Just because you're afraid of the unknown, doesn't mean you have to hold onto something you're not even sure is true.<br />
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So there you have it. I never knew this day would come. I can't even comprehend it sometimes... it's a bit surreal thinking about it really. The best thing is... this is solely my decision, it hasn't been influenced by a partner or a friend. I am choosing this other path even though I don't know what it means... and guess what? I'm exciting to see what it brings and the adventures that will come along with it. Everyone's journey is different and I'm all for everyone taking a different journey so long as it brings them peace.<br />
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<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-59752989492465207942015-04-05T21:52:00.002+10:002015-04-05T21:52:19.505+10:00An Old Acquaintance... A New FriendSo the past week had a bit of a blast from the past experience.<br />
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Let me rewind 12 years to my first year of seminary in 2002. I was a timid, shy 14 year old attending my first year of seminary. 6am in the morning (yes, we didn't have the privilege of seminary during school in Australia), I would unwillingly get up out of bed and get driven to Church. I never really paid much attention to other people in my class much mainly because I was half asleep most of the time. I don't think I was aware I was gay back then either but I do remember a very good looking guy in the class. We never really spoke but he was friends with my sister who was also in the same class so I knew who he was.<br />
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He was only there for my first year of seminary and I found out that he and his family moved interstate later that year. That was the last I'd heard from him until last week.<br />
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I was google-ing 'gay mormon australia' wondering what would come up and this radio interview came up. The interview featured an ex-Mormon talking about his experience. I was obviously intrigued by the subject and listened to the interview. I came across a picture of the guy being interviewed..... you guessed it! It was that guy from seminary 12 years ago!!<br />
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I stalked him on Facebook and sent him a messaging wondering if he would remember me from seminary... he did and we caught up for a chat. Interestingly enough, we both moved interstate and ended up in the same State years later, in fact we had both moved to the same city 2 years ago.<br />
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So we met up for a meal and chatted about what our lives for the past 12 years. Oh wait... did I not mention that he was also gay? Haha! I'm sure you would've picked that up already. Either way, it was good to hear him talk about what his views were on the Gospel. I found that my views were moving in a very similar direction. We're going to go to a few things together which will be great because I'm way too nervous to go by myself.<br />
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A few themes came out of that visit that really got me thinking and ultimately helped me clear things up on where I stand in the Gospel at the moment.<br />
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We both talked about the many years we spent praying, hoping that things would change, be different. We served faithfully in the Church, served a mission and tried dating girls. Countless tears shed and time spent on our knees wishing we would be different. We both came to similar conclusions in our own times;<br />
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<i>If the Gospel were true, we would be judged according to our acts but also the desires of our hearts. Only God would know how hard we've tried to overcome this and the many years of pain we went through. We believe he would have mercy on us. The way I see it is, the Plan of Salvation is planned so that we will end up somewhere we will be happy and if I can be happy in this life then I'll be find whichever kingdom I end up in because I will be happy there. Our activity in Church isn't a direct reflection on how good of a person we are. We can still be a good person and that's what matters. </i><br />
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At the same time, we both do have a lot of doctrinal issues with the Gospel which I won't expound on here.<br />
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All in all, I think this experience gave me the push that I needed to finally get off the fence and make a crucial decision.... I'll save that for another post.<br />
<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-77418533470806434432015-03-14T16:03:00.003+11:002015-03-14T16:03:46.694+11:00Initiating Physical Intimacy.Sometimes I feel like I'm only living through my teenage years now in regards to dating.<br />
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During my teenage years as I was trying desperately to date girls, I felt like I never really got to follow my instincts in what I actually really wanted to do especially when it came to physical intimacy on dates. You watch movies and you see the guy sneakily put his arm around the girl during the movie - smooth. I never had that because I never wanted to with girls. That's why I feel like I'm only living that stage of life now as I try to date guys... I get petrified of how to make a move.<br />
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That brings me to my date last night.<br />
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It was date #2 for us.<br />
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We texted a little bit during the week but not a whole lot. I didn't know how he felt and I'm sure he didn't really know how I felt. We were supposed to go ice skating on Wednesday but we had to cancelled because something came up for him so we re-scheduled to Friday night.<br />
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I must say I was a bit nervous about the plans because we couldn't really find a time that worked for both of us so we decided the best time was meeting up Friday night after his show which finished at 10pm. We decided to watch a movie at my house.<br />
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I picked him up from the theatre; we shared a quick hello hug and jumped in my car. We chatted casually about the week gone by which was nice.<br />
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We stopped by Subway to grab some take away dinner while we watched the movie because we were somewhat on a time schedule. You see, he didn't drive and he lives about an hour away from me and he was planning on catching a train home last night (the last one being at 1am). I would've given him a ride but I had work earlier on Saturday morning so I really needed to sleep... plus this date was wayyyy past my bedtime.<br />
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Anyways, we got home and put on a movie and ate our dinner... this is how it started....<br />
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We started on separate ends of the couch. My heart was pounding... do I move closer? Do I make a move? Does he want me to? Slowly I inch closer and closer... our legs would brush occasionally and I would put my hand on the couch next to me kinda like that picture up there. It was quite the 'typical' teenage dates most people went through during high school. I can't remember a specific point but somehow my arm just ended up around him and he put his head on my shoulder and his hand on my lap and our other hands linked together.<br />
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The movie finished and we continue to sit in that position and chat and it felt great. There were moments when our faces inched closer but it didn't happen.... yet. Either way, by the time the movie finished it was past 1am so I offered him to stay over (on the couch). He kindly accepted.<br />
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We continued to talk and eventually when we got up we just stood there and hugged... then we looked each other in the eyes... and it happened. We kissed... it was brief but it was sweet.<br />
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We got ready for bed and I offered for him to stay in my bed - WHAT THE HELL?! What did I just do? I was 100% certain I didn't want anything to get too heated because that just wasn't me - in the words of Kelly Clarkson: "I do not hook up". Then there I was with a guy I had just met for the second time... in my bed. <br />
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Believe it or not, nothing happened. I have so much more respect for him that he didn't make further advancements and proud that I didn't myself. We spooned and talked and fell asleep hours later.<br />
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So this is how it ended.<br />
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It was nice waking up next to someone. I really miss it. Although now comes the awkward part.<br />
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What are we now?<br />
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I don't have the answer. This morning was kind of rushed because I had to get ready for work and get to work so it wasn't my ideal way to end the date. I really hope I see him again.<br />
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I guess there's still a lot more of the dating phases to go through but it has been nice thus far.<br />
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(Come on! Text me!)<br />
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I'm sure you're all sick of hearing about my dating life by now! If not, stay tuned!Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-33093581343568178502015-03-08T20:10:00.002+11:002015-03-08T20:10:37.327+11:00Dates, dates and more datesSo I was half way through writing a post for my last date and then got distracted (been a busy week!)<br />
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Since then, I've been on another date and interestingly enough it gives me a bit more incite into reviewing the first date.<br />
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So here it goes:<br />
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<b>Date #1:</b><br />
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So I had been talking to this guy on the phone for a couple of days before we met up last Thursday night for dinner. When I saw him there wasn't any instant physical chemistry and to be honest there was probably zero physical attraction there. Nevertheless, I wanted to get to know him because looks aren't everything and we did have good conversations over the phone.<br />
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We met up just around the corner from my house and walked to the dumpling restaurant just around the corner. We had some good conversations and laughed a bit during the night. It was quite positive overall except for the lack of physical attraction.<br />
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After dinner we parted ways at the street corner of my house, just said our pleasantries and say goodnight, no goodnight kiss, hug or even a handshake. It was actually quite awkward. The date really caused me to reflect on what I was looking for and what I wanted. Was I looking for a good guy to settle down with or was I looking for a hot guy? I've never considered myself to be shallow in any way but for once in my life... I'm feeling shallow because the only thing negative about the date was the lack of physical attraction. I didn't want that to be me so I wanted to give it another try so I texted him the next day and said I'm not really sure how I feel yet but I would like to get to know him more. I guess the other thing that freaked me out is that this guy is about to have a kid! Crazy I know! So I mean he's seriously looking for someone to settle down with which I'm totally up for... but a kid?? Now?? I mean I would love kids but I think it would be a bit of a strain to have a kid this early!<br />
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Ether way, we've exchanged a few phone calls since and it's been pleasant and I'm open to seeing him again.<br />
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So I've been texting this guy for about a week now and we decided to meet up for dinner last night. He's a performer *swoon* so I was meeting him after a show last night at around 5pm. We met up and decided to have dinner first at a cafe. I was instantly smitten by his beaming smile and his horrible Dad jokes that he proceeded to tell during dinner. We finished dinner and grabbed ice cream and sat by the pier and talked while we ate our ice cream, it was quite romantic actually. It was also getting cold so we made our way back to the car and I offered to give him a ride home (he lived about an hour from where I live) so on the car ride it was a good time to talk and stuff. During the car ride we decided to go bowling because let's face it, who doesn't love bowling (we're sounding so Mormon aren't we? Ice cream and bowling for the first date!)<br />
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We got to bowling and had a blast teasing each other and it was fun. He beat me in the first game and I beat him in the second so we were pretty even. Then drove him home. Oh I hate this part... such awkwardness... what do you do... so we chatted for a bit in the car and then we were kinda like, 'oookkkaaayy well thanks for a good night, I better go' and then we sat there for a few more seconds in silence as if we're waiting for the other person to make a move. Eventually he put his arms out to give me a hug and we just hugged for a few brief seconds in the car. I had the biggest smile on my face driving home singing along to show tunes.<br />
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I texted him when i got home because I hated paying the 'whose turn is it to text' game. It did take some convincing from my friend though... you know... you don't want to sound too desperate but if you don't put yourself out there you'll never know. Oh and we have a second date :) We're going ice skating this week. <br />
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The scary thing was... a lot of my insecurities started to show itself again... a lot of bad memories from my last relationship and how things would go wrong. I started even questioning whether or not I want a relationship and I'm sure that's really a way to protect myself from being hurt again.<br />
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I feel like there's so many more expectations for a follow up date as well. Do I kiss him? Are we meant to vocalise interest? Do I touch his hand? Oh I don't know!! I said I was bad at this dating thing!!<br />
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Stay tuned for how the second date goes.<br />
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<b>Date #3:</b><br />
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I was meant to met up with this guy for a drink tonight which I didn't really didn't feel like after my date last night but I felt like I had to because I don't want to stand someone up. Thankfully he had to cancel but we were going to reschedule for sometimes this week... I know it's just a casual date but I just don't feel like serial dating - maybe that's why I failed at being a Mormon.<br />
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So I don't know where this one is at now but I'm hoping nothing happens...<br />
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Thoughts...<br />
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So there you have it. I was on a dating drought and now I'm serial dating!<br />
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Dating is just such an intriguing activity. Sometimes you feel like you're going crazy or that you are crazy! Please reassure me that I'm not the only one like this, haha! Either way, I'm trying to remain calm and collected. I think I do have a tendency to settle sometimes or be blinded by the the excitement of it all but really... there is no logic to love and relationships, perhaps it's one of those things like the spirit... you can't explain it, you can only feel it. <br />
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I love turning to wikihow in these instances!<br />
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One thing you have to know about me is... I suck at dating! Maybe it's the whole Mormon upbringing where you assume dating is just asking a girl to dinner and you have a great conversation and that's it. Casual dating right? Different YSA every weekend until I don't know, there's just this spark and you know that she's the one you want to take to the temple? Definitely not the story of my life...<br />
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So I met this guy on a dating site last week and we've exchanged a few phone calls during the week which were all very pleasant. <strike>Then you begin to imagine what life with him would look like</strike> - WAIT, you haven't even seen him yet! There are so many expectations with online dating and whilst I've been very clear with this guy that we are going to meet without expectations and as friends, I'm sure both of us have expectations somewhat. Will he likes me? Will I like him? Will I find him attractive? Will we have anything to talk about? Will we get along? Will I run into someone I know? Will it be awkward? What if one of us is interested and the other one isn't? So many 'what if's'!!<br />
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I guess I'll find out in 15 minutes! Yikes! <br />
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Stay tuned and wish me luck!<br />
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<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-22295944662189465172015-02-16T22:05:00.002+11:002015-02-16T22:05:33.935+11:00A Father's LoveI was wanting to post about my first experience going to an LGBT social group this past week but something happened yesterday that has taken precedence.<br />
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So I was on the phone to my Dad a few days ago and he made a comment to me in passing that took me a bit (or A LOT) by surprise. So we were talking about my new house (yes I bought a house, hooray!), he said in passing 'make sure you check the legal stuff around ownership of the house because there's some circumstances where if you live with someone for over 6 months they might have claim on it so when you live with your <b><u><i>partner</i></u></b> make sure you check all that out'. WHAT?! Did I just hear him correctly? My Dad who serviced as my Bishop when I was a teenager and still very active in Chuch, has commented on me having a 'partner' and talking about us living together?! I was gobsmacked! What caught me even more off guard was he said it so casually as if he didn't feel uncomfortable at all about the topic, (I actually felt like I was more uncomfortable than he was).<br />
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A bit of background on my relationship with my Dad...<br />
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My Dad is an intelligent and logical person. He rarely loses his temper and only a handful of times do I remember him lose his temper. He is somewhat of a conservative person in regards to showing emotion and I only do remember a handful of times he has verbalised that he 'loves' me. Despite the lack of verbal reassurance, there has never been any doubt in my mind that my Dad has an immense love for his family.<br />
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My Dad was always the one to approach if I wanted permission to go out with friends when I was younger. He was certainly more chill than my Mum but when it came to morals and values, he was as ancient as ancient gets.<br />
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During my first bout of rebellion (when I was on the verge of coming out at 17) my I distinctly remember my Dad sitting me in a room as stern as he had ever been letting me know that he could not allow anything contrary to the Gospel live under his roof. I was furious and contemplated running away from home as a naive 17 year old. I knew he said it out of love but my mind back then could not comprehend that. I'm sure he was only bluffing.<br />
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When I served a mission, my Dad was so proud because he valued his mission so much he wanted me to feel the same. We wrote regularly during my 2 year service and I felt like we grew closer together. My Dad was much better at showing emotion through letters than he was verbally and I felt like my mission helped me show my love for my family more.<br />
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Upon returning, we experienced some difficulties as our viewpoints on Gospel doctrines seemed to differ a bit. Our conversations became a bit more mundane and surface-y. So even now, although we have a great love for each other, we rarely verbalise it. We talk about sport, gossip amongst relatives, food, the weather even! Rarely about things that were close to our hearts.<br />
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When I started seeing this guy from last year, I knew I had to tell my family and I always dreaded telling my Dad because in my mind he would never approve. My sister told me to start with my Dad because she felt like he wold take it easier than Mum would so when my Dad was visiting me on one of his business trips I decided to take the opportunity....<br />
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We sat in the car as he was dropping me home from dinner... I told him I had something tell him.... I didn't know how to say it! I was 'umm-ing' and 'errr-ing' for about a good 15 minutes before I finally told him. He didn't react in any obvious way (no overwhelming love or disgust/hate). He was calm and just questioned my testimony and lectured me a bit about still keeping commandments. I was somewhat disappointed that he didn't show more love toward me but then again, it was much better than what I had expected... after that conversation that night in October, the subject was never mentioned again......<br />
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.....UNTIL THAT COMMENT! And he hasn't treated me any differently since!<br />
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I'm so grateful for the family that I have... even though we have our challenges, I know that he love me no matter what (even though they don't want to say it because it will feel like they condone my choices).<br />
<br />To everyone out there who are afraid to tell their parents, just hang in there! It seems like a scary and daunting thing to tell them but they might surprise you. That being said I think timing is very important as it was for me and my family so just take it at your own time and pace - when YOU are ready :)<br />
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The last time I met with him was September, I remember I called him and wanted to speak to him because I had just gone on a date with a guy whom I liked very much, (we subsequently dated for about 3 months). So really, lots has happened since our last meeting.<br />
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I got to the chapel 10 minutes early and ran into the senior couple missionary serving in our ward. We made small talk but man those missionaries are forward! He starts off asking me if I was a member to which I answered 'yes'. he then said 'oh, I've never seen you here before'. Right... this has gotten a bit awkward... because I sort of have been there most weeks. Either way, Bishop turned up 5 minutes later and rescued me from an awkward conversation.<br />
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We walked into his office and sat down. I used to get really nervous entering the Bishop's office because I knew he was going to ask me those difficult questions and I would always have to panic over how truthful I was answering the Law of Chastity question. Now I just feel so peaceful because I had nothing to hide from Bishop because he knew everything about me.<br />
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<span style="text-align: center;">We made some small talk and general banter about how our Christmas' were and the time we spent on holidays. He then asked the big-vague-can be interpreted in anyways-all encompassing question: 'so how are things going?' I knew what the question was referring to of course so out came my life in a nutshell over the past 4 months; falling in love, beginning a relationship, breaking up, coming out to my family, coming out to my friends and being somewhat inactive.</span><br />
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It was during this talk with him that I came to a profound self realisation. I have been happy. Despite not living the commandments of the Church, not attending Church regularly, praying or reading my scripture, I have been the happiest I have been in a long time. Even after my relationship ended (minus the grieving period right after the breakup), I'm still happy. I feel like there is hope is my life, hope for the future and for more happiness. This was an important moment for me because I was always fearful that my life would be miserable without the Church and while there are aspects I do miss in the Church, I am overall satisfied with life the way it is at the moment.<br />
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What Bishop went on to say gave me hope that perhaps one day, gay Mormons growing up in Church will have it easier then those that have past. Bishop reassured me that this happiness I've found is great. He went on to tell me that he'd been thinking a lot about the topic ever since we started meeting and that it has opened up his eyes and mind to this topic. He told me that he's been thinking about whether or not being gay and being in Church had to be mutually exclusive. He told me that it was good that I wanted to find fulfilling relationships in my life but did that mean I had to throw away the Gospel that I obviously still hold onto. He then proceeding to tell me an experience he'd had over Christmas when he met with a friend who was also a Bishop elsewhere. They got talking on the topic of homosexuality and this other Bishop told him that there was an openly gay couple in the ward he presides over. Members of the ward knew about it and just welcomed them in as anyone would. Bishop did acknowledge that it would be difficult and did not know exactly how it would work but he just emphasised that everyone should be welcomed into Church regardless - everyone is a sinner and sin differently so why should one be judged over another. Bishop certainly didn't say this is what I had to do but simply expressing thoughts that had been going through his mind.<br />
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Sure the process isn't that straight forward and I know there would be a lot of challenges but which path in life doesn't have challenges? I didn't feel like he was preaching to me one bit during our talk but simple empathy, understanding and love.<br />
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I am hopeful that Church members can emulate those Christlike attributes of love and acceptance as my Bishop so wonderfully showed me this past week. I hope the future of being gay and Mormon won't be as difficult as it has been for generations past.<br />
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Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-33315887037470068502015-01-18T21:33:00.002+11:002015-01-18T21:33:45.117+11:00Inactivity Acknowledgement Milestone<div>
I was Facebook messaging one of my former mission companions this past week and all of a sudden out of the blue he asks me: 'I have to ask, are you still in the Church?' It took me a bit (or a lot) by surprise because I'm certainly not one for sharing every aspect of my life on Facebook and certainly I haven't publicly announced my challenges with the Church. </div>
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This made me think about anything that could've given it away on Facebook because that's the only contact we've had except for the occasional Skype chat when we first returned home from our missions roughly 5 years ago. I noticed that over the last few months I've subtly 'unliked' all the Mormon related pages on Facebook such as 'The Book of Mormon', 'General Conference' and 'LDS missionaries' because they would fill up my news feed. I then thought about my lack of active 'Gospel related' posts and 'YSA events' I've attended which could've given it away. It's funny how even the omission of Gospel related posts could give it away from a once very active Mormon.</div>
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I certainly have moved away from trying to hide the fact that I've developed some issues with the Church but I've been a bit reluctant to make it public knowledge for a few reasons. I still keep in touch with some converts I taught on my mission and members that I've been really close to and I don't want to affect their testimonies and I didn't want them to see me differently... </div>
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It was after that conversation that I realised that I had avoided to make contact with some of the closest families on my mission because I was scared they would see me differently. In one of my areas on my mission I was really close to a family and I would call them 'mum' and 'dad'. When I first returned home I would call them several times a year (her birthday, his birthday, Christmas, Mother's Day and Father's Day). I realised that I hadn't called them in about 3 years. I decided to change that and I called them this past week. We talked for about an hour on Skype and of course they found out that I was no longer 'completely' active in Church through asking what my calling was. I felt a little piece of my heart break but they didn't judge or hassle me. It reminds me of the loving nature that Mormons are striving so hard to obtain and gives me hope that although there maybe imperfect people in Church, they also possess a lot of perfect qualities.</div>
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Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-25746177352442710122015-01-11T20:18:00.001+11:002015-01-11T20:21:46.284+11:00Open Doors for 2015<br />
I'm usually not much for new year resolutions but what the hell.<br />
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I guess I'll just reflect and document on plans/goals for the year and see how they measured up at the end of the year.<br />
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<u><i><span style="font-size: large;">Family</span></i></u></div>
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What can I say? I love my family. They have been nothing but supportive in the past year and I feel like I'm closer to them than ever before. We have no more secrets amongst us. Although the choices I have made do not coincide with the choices that my family wanted me to make, they still love me and that means the world to me.<br />
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As we've grown up and moved away, it has become harder to spend time together as a family but I'm grateful that in 2014 we were able to spend time together in March for my niece's baptism and in December for Christmas. While it may not seem like a lot of time during the long year, I'm grateful for the time we do have to spend together.<br />
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<i>- visit my parents at least 4 times</i><br />
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So if you've missed what's happened last year, <a href="http://themostlyunfabulouslifeofamormonboy.blogspot.com.au/2014/12/love.html" target="_blank">here</a> is the post that summarises my love life adventures recently.<br />
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Last week was a bit tumultuous when I found out that he deleted me on Facebook (it's funny how everything seems more real on Facebook - now I can feel my dad's pain when I blocked him on Facebook a few years ago). So this was the guy who asked if we could be friends after he just broke up with me and while I was trying to make sense of things deletes me on Facebook! I was quite furious to say the least. How could he? Were we not even friends now? Did he not even want to know what was happening in my life? I was so close to writing an angry post about it but I think it was at that moment things began to change for me. Perhaps this is what happens when you finally come to accept things. I felt like he has moved on and while I thought I had moved on, I hadn't - I was still secretly hoping he still cared and stalked my Facebook as often as I would stalk his to see what was happening in his life, (gosh I sound like a creep). I can proudly say that I have not stalked his Facebook or Instagram profile since and I'm content with that.<br />
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'...but you didn't have to cut me off, make out like it never happened and that we were nothing.... I guess that I don't need that though, now you're just somebody that I used to know....'<br />
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While I don't think I'm ready for love just yet, I do hope I will be able to fall in love somewhere along the line in 2015. <br />
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So I feel like I've totally slacked off last year in this department. You know how you have a few good friends and you're just content and not put in the effort to put yourself out there to make new friends? That was me.<br />
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So, I hosted Family Feud for my department at work for Christmas last year and other departments heard about it. I subsequently got invited to host it for another department (twice the size of my original party with me only knowing about 3 of them). I think I may have just 'long jumped' out of my comfort zone. It wasn't too bad actually... I even scored a bottle of red wine as a gift for doing it ;) (anyone want a bottle of red wine??)<br />
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If I haven't mentioned it before, I am currently a clinical social worker working in health and while I love my job, I feel like I want to experience other areas of social work and be challenged.<br />
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There are 2 areas of social work I've always wanted to steer clear of and that is mental health and child protection.... Guess what?! I want to try child protection now. Yep, call me crazy (I question that myself all the time ;)). I just feel like I would learn so much and whilst it is sad, there are a lot of children out there who need protecting.<br />
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So after much contemplation I decided I wanted to seriously give it a go and started on my application to work for protective services here in Australia. Wait. Curve ball coming. My supervisor at work suddenly resigned out of the blue leaving a more senior vacant position which are hard to come by. There are so many of my colleagues who are more experienced than I am but i decided to give it a go and if anything it's interview experience. So let's wait and see what happens.<br />
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I've decided this year is going to be the year of travelling.<br />
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Planning holidays are SO much fun! I've had a blast the last few days researching flights, how I want to fly, where I want to visit, where I want to stay, places I want to see, so on and so forth. <br />
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I've always loved travelling but for one reason for another it never pans out the way I want it to. This year, I've decided to just go ahead and do it. If no one else if organised enough to plan ahead then I shall do it alone (and it actually feels quite empowering!)<br />
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I will be visiting the US in November this year and I know it's still a fair ways away but if any Mohos would like to catch up while I'm there that would be awesome!<br />
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So I've just started my personal training again for the new year and I'm so mentally ready to go at it hard! I even went to the gym by myself yesterday without my trainer (now that's an achievement because I find it intimidating going to the gym without my trainer).<br />
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Whilst training may likely help with my chances of finding a partner, I think the most important aspect for me is boosting self confidence and health. <br />
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Last but not least. Probably the most difficult to analyse out of all because I don't exactly know where I want to be and probably the least tangible of the bunch.<br />
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For starters, I do want to distinguish the Church from my faith because I know that many Mormons will use the terms interchangeably, but I feel like they are separating for me. That's not to say I think the Church is wrong, simply because I feel separating the two will make it easy for me to process my thoughts.<br />
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<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-57192866200950366952014-12-31T18:46:00.001+11:002014-12-31T18:46:37.182+11:002014!I'm quite a reflective person so I feel it may be appropriate to wrap up 2014 with a post.<br />
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<b><u>January:</u></b> Took a risk and started a new job - definitely paid off! Although I have my moments, I love my job now and have met many wonderful people along the way.<br />
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<u><b>March:</b></u> Holiday-ed to Singapore. Revisited my sexual orientation with my sister for the first time in 8 years - definitely a pivotal moment this year and what's began this self discovery journey.<br />
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<u><b>April:</b></u> Started meeting with Bishop regularly - have felt a huge burden off my shoulders as I no longer held a calling or partook of the sacrament.<br />
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<u><b>May:</b></u> Started blogging!! - met some wonderful people along the way from this awesome MoHo community.<br />
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<u><b>June:</b></u> Started personal training - finally bit the bullet to get healthier and fitter! Although I'm not at the point to take body transformation photos, I definitely feel healthier!<br />
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<u><b>September:</b></u> Met the man I fell in love with.<br />
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<u><b>October:</b></u> Came out to my Dad - I don't think I've blogged about it yet! May have to catch up soon...<br />
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<u><b>November:</b></u> Came out to my Mum (again!)<br />
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<u><b>December:</b></u> Relationship ended. Went on an amazing cruise and family holiday!<br />
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Movie: "Frozen" - I know it technically came out end of 2013 but I watched it in 2014.<br />
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TV show: TWD<br />
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Musical watched in 2014: Wicked<br />
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It's been quite an amazing year really despite the recent rough patches.<br />
I feel like this year has been pivotal to me starting this journey of self discovery and spirituality, taking risks and taking chances. Sure, not everything ended up where I would've liked but I trust that it happened this way for a reason and I just need to wait patiently to find out what that reason was. It maybe cheesy but I do believe that it is better to have experienced love and be hurt than to never have experienced love at all. After all, according to 2 Nephi 2, how are we to know what joy feels like if we never experience sorrow and pain?<br />
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So farewell 2014 - you've been great and here's to a brighter, better and more joy filled 2015!<br />
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So it's been a week and a half of being single again... each day gets easier but certainly coming home was a challenge. I still think about him but being home does make it seem more real and concrete. My very good friend came over the day after I got back to help me get rid of some of his stuff which was good. It was hard. I think throwing the toothbrush out was probably the hardest part. I saw a note that he once wrote to me... I wanted to read it again but I knew it would hurt too much so I scrumped it up and I hesitated throwing it out... because I wanted to keep it as a memory... but I didn't because it would hurt too much.<br />
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'...someday when I stop loving you...' <br />
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I want to write a little bit about where I stand with my faith at the moment amongst everything else that is happening. I would be lying if I said it had no impact on my spiritual journey.<br />
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First of all, I told myself clearly when this was happening that I wasn't going to run back to Church just because I was 'compelled to be humble' or because it was convenient. I put up a brave face with my family in Sydney and told my sister that it was a mutual break up and that I felt completely fine. I'm sure she told my parents because they didn't make any mention of him for the remainder of the trip. I told my sister that regardless of this relationship ending, it doesn't change the fact that I want to find another relationship...<br />
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The truth is... I don't know what I want anymore. I want to love again but will I? If I'm not going to then I might as well go back to Church, at least I can be somewhat happy there... Right?<br />
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Just to complicate things I came out to 2 other Church friends when I was in Sydney. One of them I planned to tell and the other it just kind of happened.<br />
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Friend 1: He clearly felt uncomfortable and in fact said to me that he was very homophobic but was trying to understand where I was coming from. He essentially in a nutshell implied that it is something that I need to overcome and that I must be an elect spirit to be faced with this challenge and that I could overcome it. I'm not a huge fan of the Church's explanation of this whole 'chosen generation' concept... I think it's just used to make you feel good and motivate you to do things. I think we had to agree to disagree a bit but we were both respectful.<br />
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Friend 2: She has always been someone that I look up to, a spiritual giant who helped me through many trials in my teenage years. She played a big role in my staying active in Church when I wanted to leave the first time around. I told her at the airport as she was seeing me off. We didn't really have much time to talk about it but we are going to Skype sometime soon to discuss it in more detail.<br />
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Maybe it's because I'm lonely and heartbroken... but I feel like I miss something that the Church gave me. Hope perhaps? I don't know...<br />
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A lot of food for thought. I certainly don't want to make any big decisions at the moment. I did however go to Church today, Sacrament and Sunday School. It was kind of mediocre. I've been thinking that maybe I should pray but perhaps it's pride but I don't want to come running back to God as soon as something goes wrong and go out and do what I want when things are going well. Perhaps I'm not ready to make a decision. I don't know. Right now, my priority is to get my spirits back up and hopefully deal with this breakup.<br />
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<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-12951015218572014952014-12-23T07:11:00.003+11:002014-12-27T12:59:54.404+11:00Love.<b><i>The Meeting & The Chase </i></b><br />
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On the 14th September 2014, He and I met and went on our first date for a hike. I picked him up from his house and he was already waiting outside. He jumped in the car and seemed very confident and talkative. We laughed and talked during our hike, he loved musicals as do I, he enjoys the outdoors and wanted to have a family. After our hike he asked if I wanted to grab some dinner which we did. Oh, how could I forget the silly pineapple juice comment when I ordered one not knowing the symbolism behind it, I used to laugh at that experience but now I think about it with tears welling up in my eyes. I had a good evening but didn’t know how it went until he asked if he could ‘steal a hug’ from me in the car park which lasted for about 5 seconds. When I dropped him off home, he leaned over and kissed me on the cheek. I don’t think I can ever forget that moment. <br />
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That first week was killing me; the chase - I hated the chase, I texted him the next day and he texted me on the Wednesday and I asked if he wanted to grab a drink on Thursday which ended up being our second date - dumplings. He then invited me over on Friday night which was a wonderful night when we just laid in bed and talked. We spent Saturday shopping and walking around. Everything else seems like a blur from then. From that first weekend, we spent at least one day from every weekend together and usually once or twice during the week too.<br />
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<i><b>Truly, Madly, Deeply</b></i><br />
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I remember a few weeks ago when he made me promise him to talk to him if there was ever anything I wasn’t happy with and never keep anything from him because he wanted to be with me forever and he could see it happening. He told me I care more to him than anything in the world. Whenever I felt any insecurities he would kiss me so convincingly that all my worries would go away. I really believed that he loved me and that I mattered to him. <br />
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I was there for him when he was about to get evicted from his house and offered for him to stay at my house. I looked everyday for a house he could move into and eventually found a place. We moved together and that night when I laid in bed, I felt like we were moving in together because it felt like our home. He began decorating his house, pictures of us together, we built our Christmas tree together in preparation for Christmas. I had a toothbrush at his house and he at mine. We even had our first weeknight sleepover for a work night and it worked out just great. <br />
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I remember when we watched ‘The Fault In Our Stars’ together, he wept into my arms and I told him I would always be here for him. For many times after that day, I was there when he needed me, bringing dinner over when he had a bad day, comforting him when he felt stressed, I really gave it my all. <br />
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When he asked me to go to his work Christmas ‘family picnic’, I felt like it was a big step forward. Even after the picnic he said that he was happy because he felt like we were a family now. He gave me a key to his house and I felt like I had two homes and it felt great because for once, I opened up my heart completely to let someone in. I remember when he told me that he had never opened up so much to someone before.<br />
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How could I not pay a tribute to once of our favourite movies we watched together... <br />
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"...All my life has been a series of doors in my face, and then suddenly I bump into you... Love is an open door..."<br />
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<i><b>The Silent Fall </b></i><br />
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During my holiday, everything seemed the same, we texted daily - good morning text every morning and goodnight text every night; he continued to tell me he loved me and missed me. I had no idea that he was already plotting a breakup and that his feelings towards me had already changed.<br />
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In hindsight, I did notice some phone calls when I would say I missed him and he didn’t reciprocate. I told myself not to be so sensitive and was reassured every time he did tell me he loved me. We exchanged about 2 phone calls in the first week mostly during times he was out shopping or driving. He promised we could chat on Skype when I was away but that never happened and I never asked for it because I didn't want him to feel pressured. It didn’t matter, hearing his voice was enough for me. I missed him like crazy.<br />
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My cruise ship docked in our city for a day and we had already planned a day together - who would’ve thought what was supposed to be the best day would turn into the worst.<br />
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He picked me up from the pier and we went back to his place to open our Christmas presents. He got me Balderdash (I love Balderdash!!), a smoothie blender, a sports drink bottle and a recipe book. He did pretty good I must say. We then went to my place to pick up a few things and then he took me on a 'surprise date'. We went to a lovely park by the shoreline and had a picnic... he made me all my favourite foods. We then went to Science Works museum.<br />
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I could tell something was up... he was quiet the whole day, he was barely smiling, he didn't hold my hand or kiss me like he used to. He reassured me everything was alright... I didn't believe him... When he dropped me off at the pier I asked him again whether or not something was up because he seemed 'different' and once again he said everything was fine. I didn't believe him and asked him to tell me what was happening. He told me to get back in the car - my heart sank.<br />
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<i><b>Crashing Down</b></i><br />
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He told me that he didn't want to tell me now because he didn't want to ruin my holiday and wanted us to talk when I got back from holidays. I couldn't bear waiting 2 more weeks to find out our fate so I made him tell me. He did. I cried. I left.<br />
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The only time I heard from him again was when he asked me where the key to his house was later that day... we haven't spoken since even though i have so much I want to tell him....<br />
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Although I’m still in pain and things didn’t work out, the last 3 months have been some of the happiest of my life. I love the way he held me in his arms. I love the way we would hold hands. I love his lame jokes. I love the way he kissed me. I love the his head on my shoulders. I love his terrible singing. I love the way he looked at me. I love him. The truth is, I would love to hear him tell me he loves me again even if it's a lie. I hope that love will always be apart of who I am but I hope that I may set that love aside so that I can make room to love someone else, someone who can and will love me back.<br />
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"...Just wanna stand there and hear me cry, that's alright because I love the way you lie... I love the way you lie..."<br />
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<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-38206123407856772912014-12-22T09:24:00.004+11:002014-12-22T09:24:50.682+11:00The ReturnI haven't posted here for a while... mainly because I suck at writing and it was taking me so long to write things that even half made sense. For some reason, heartbreak makes words flow easier...<br />
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What has been happening since my last post?<br />
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I was still on my journey of finding out if the Gospel was true... the answer never came. What did come was a wonderful guy, we fell in love and I was happy. For once, I felt like I could live without the Gospel in my life and still be happy. I came out to my Mum and Dad once again but this time letting them know that I no longer attend Church regularly, wear my garments or believe whole heartedly as I once did. They were understandably sad but respected my decisions.<br />
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As I hinted to in the beginning, another chapter of love has concluded in my life and I wish to document the journey and hopefully write more regularly once again. The coming posts will document the last few months and where to from here...Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-13610445074798807592014-07-08T21:51:00.000+10:002014-07-08T21:51:17.969+10:00The Best 2 Years!<br />
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It wouldn't be a mission if I didn't attach this song to it ;)<br />
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I served in the Great White North from 2007 - 2009.<br />
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It certainly wasn't an easy time but to me, those times have been some of the happiest times of my life. I felt like I could for once put my sexual identity behind me and serve the Lord with all my heart, might, mind and strength.<br />
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I had all sorts of companions;<br />
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It was such an amazing opportunity to put things behind you and just focus on sharing the Gospel. Although some of my views may have changed a little bit, I still don't regret serving a mission and am grateful for everything the mission taught me. I don't think I would be the person I am today if I didn't serve a mission. I met some of the most amazing people and even though we haven't kept in touch as much as I would've liked, some have changed my life so much.<br />
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I've forgotten a lot of my mission... it has been about 5 years ago! WOAH!<br />
Sitting here writing this blog I've tried to think of some memories and some of it is coming back... I think going through my mission journals is due!<br />
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As wonderful and amazing as my mission was, like all good things, they have to come to an end.<br />
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I really wanted to move to Utah after my mission and study at BYU - sometimes I wonder if my life would be any different now if I had chosen that path. I didn't though. I went back to University in Australia and continued my degree.<br />
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Hmm... where to start.....<br />
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Well maybe a bit more about my story perhaps...<br />
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So continuing on where I had left off<br />
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Oh those teenage years.... how to describe them...<br />
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I remember my teenage years being a time when I was yearning for love, wanting to feel special and wanting so desperately to fall in love. I tried all I could to conform with the 'norm' and even dating girls. It just never felt right. All that came of that was unfairness and heartbreak - and to this day I feel incredibly sorry for those that I hurt because I so desperately wanted to be straight.<br />
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Back in those days there wasn't smart phones but luckily there was the internet and I found myself trying to meet guys there (not the best medium I must say). I briefly talking about Mogenic in my previous post.<br />
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Simultaneously at this time I remember Church was not a positive in my life. I felt like I was being judged all the time by leaders. My friends weren't particularly strong in the Gospel and in fact most of them were non-members. I recall an incident where a leader blatantly accused me in Sunday School of taking drugs... furious was an understatement. I remember going to Church but not actually being there. I didn't want to be there...<br />
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The first person I ever told about my SGA was my sister... her response really felt like knives to my heart. I still recall those words of 'you can change' and 'don't give up' still rings familiar in my mind today. I don't blame her because I would've probably done the same if our lives were reversed. Funnily enough that was the only conversation I ever had with my sister about the issue for 8 years.<br />
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The second person I told was my Mum. It was during this period when I did not want to go to Church anymore that I felt like my Mum knew. I think she always knew deep inside. I was probably a bit of a sensitive kid (and I really liked Sailor Moon :P). One Sunday morning when we drove to Church my Dad and sister went into class and my Mum and I sat in the car. My Mum wanted to know why I didn't want to come to Church anymore. Then those words came... she said... 'do you like boys?' We both cried in the car that morning and she also told me that i could change and that this wasn't who I am.<br />
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I didn't feel like anyone understood me. Definitely not anyone in my family anyways. This was a really dark time for me. I wanted to be loved so badly that I was looking for love in all the wrong places. gay.com, gardar.com you name it. There was this one time I was so close to agree to meet a man many years my older because I felt so alone. I didn't luckily...<br />
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It was at this time of darkness that my family really tried to reach out to me. They threw me a surprise birthday party for my 18th and hat night I was happy. I hadn't been happy for a long time. At that time I made the decision that living a gay lifestyle does not bring happiness and following what my family wanted for me would. So that's exactly what I tried to do.<br />
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It wasn't easy but I tried to pray again, to prepare to serve a mission. I promised God that if I were to stay in the Church I would serve with all my might and not just half heartedly go through the motions. So I decided to serve a mission. To this day I don't regret that decision. Although it certainly would've made my decisions today a bit easier to make (funnily enough I made a comment to my friend at Church today something along the lines of 'I wish I didn't serve a mission because it would make leaving the Church so much easier'.<br />
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I don't know if this song is fitting to describe my teenage years. But it was the dream I was chasing right?<br />
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Once upon a time....<br />
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I believe my earliest recollection of 'exploring' the gay world was when I was 16. I don't think it was an 'A-HA!' moment or anything... it was just a gradual realisation that I was attracted to men. I found myself looking more at Jack then Rose during the love scenes of Titanic... it was just... subconscious.<br />
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I began exploring online chatrooms and found this one chatroom called 'Mogenic'. It was fascinating. I was meeting people (online) left, right and centre however it was difficult to meet genuine people who just wanted to chat and make friends.<br />
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Then one day... I met a guy who used to be a Mormon! Ofcourse there was an instant connection. In fact we actually met up in real life soon after that and had a LONG chat. Despite the fact that he was totally cute and I had a massive crush on him, I thought there was something special - for once there was someone who understood what I was going through! The struggle between faith and sexuality (although his family had left the Church a few years ago which made his 'coming out' a whole lot less complicated). Long story short, our paths didn't cross as much as I had hoped. Maybe because I was still too confused and conflicted but occasionally we would correspond via email and I did meet him once more after that after my mission which I will get to in a future post. I still remember his invite to watch 'Latter Days' at his house one day which never happened (and I so desperately wanted it to). I did end up watching it though by myself. He (James) did play a huge part in my story because he was the first guy I confided my deepest feelings with.... and he was my first crush. More about him later.<br />
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This time was weird for me. I was still active in the Church however I felt like I wanted something different. I felt like I wanted a boyfriend, I wanted to be loved. I began to be quite rebellious (as rebellious as being Mormon can be :P). To the point where my Dad had to sit me down and have a stern conversation with me about where my life was leading and implied that if I still wanted to live under his roof I would have to live the Gospel. It may sound harsh but I guess I understand now why he was so adamant... back then ofcourse I was furious and it made me want to leave the Church even more. This was all before I had confirmed I was gay to anyone in my family.<br />
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This leads to the first coming out.....<br />
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....to be continued....Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369362237475591615.post-22245085623154689522014-05-08T19:49:00.000+10:002014-05-08T19:49:07.625+10:00I am a MoHo (a.k.a. gay Mormon)Hi world!<br />
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So, after much contemplation and inspiration from reading many other fellow MoHo (still find this term kinda funny) bloggers, I've decided to start my own blog documenting this journey I'm on.<br />
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Sure, being gay and being Mormon doesn't completely define who I am but as other fellow gay Mormons would understand, it's quite a big part of your life.<br />
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So why have I decided to start blogging and pretty much post some of the most private parts of my life to the whole world (and gosh knows where else)? I think a big reason is from reading other bloggers with similar experiences to myself and realising how important it is for us to share our experiences because we don't know the lives we can touch out there. Although I am not perfect and far from finished with my journey, I want to be able to help others who are also on this journey and know that they are not alone. Also most of the bloggers I've read are from the US and perhaps maybe a gay Mormon posting from the southern hemisphere might give a different taste to this subject - yes! the worldwide gay Church is expanding beyond the US too :).<br />
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I may have to spend a bit of time back tracking my journey as it certainly hasn't just begun... so bear with me...<br />
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Who am I?<br />
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I am 25,<br />
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a 3rd generation Mormon,<br />
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a returned missionary,<br />
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a son,<br />
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a brother,<br />
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a man who is attracted to other men,<br />
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I am a (gay) Mormon.<br />
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Thanks for reading!<br />
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p.s. I apologise if advance for my lack of eloquence... I was never a really good writer... but it's the content that counts right? :)<br />
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<br />Dgsiahebdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02213654966269323270noreply@blogger.com0